If you have been through a divorce what advice can you give somebody that has not done it yet but might?

The main advice most men could give you could/should be: The grass is definitely not greener on the other side of the fence. Work on your marriage. Talk/communicate with your spouse - no matter how it has to be done. If you divorce now you will regret it later - it may be 1 yr., 5 yrs., or 10 yrs. from now but you will regret it and always wonder what could have been.





Most women would probably tell you: I may be hurt and angry in the beginning but that doesn't mean I don't still love you. It's never too late to work on the marriage - even if you've lied, cheated, etc. If you are 100% committed to making it work - so am I. Life can be different, better if you are honest with me and keep lines of communication open. Don't make it about who's wrong or right. Let me know what your expectations of me and our relationship are so we can work on them together. If you don't at least try then we'll never know what could have been.





If you ask most men or women who have gone out of their way to make their marriage work (even if it's meant a total lifestyle makeover, compromise, counseling, etc.) they will tell you it was 200% worth it and that they are stronger and happier than they ever thought they could be.If you have been through a divorce what advice can you give somebody that has not done it yet but might?
I have yet to actually go through one but I am in the process of filing right now. My advice, if you do decide to go through with it, is to stay strong. Every other hour you're going to flip flop your emotions and you're going to either want to blame them or yourself. You just can't do that. It doesn't make it any easier and no matter how far gone the marriage is, it's still going to be hard on you.





Nobody can tell you whether getting a divorce is the right thing to do or not. It's something you have to decide for yourself. Good luck and God bless.


If you have been through a divorce what advice can you give somebody that has not done it yet but might?
If you have been through a divorce what advice can you give somebody that has not done it yet but might ?


answer= do everything you can to keep your home and marriage together,divorce is a curse,god is against divorce,do you have kids ,they will suffer ,and life will be hell for all of you .


source=i know people who have been through divorce,it can be very nasty,do your very best to stay away from it.


all the best,take care, god bless .
My advice would be to do everything you and your spouse can do to ensure there is no divorce. . . unless the cause for divorce would be sustance abuse, physical/mental abuse, mental illness or adultery.





People jump into marriage too quickly and want to divorce too quickly. It's not a game.
Sometimes a marriage is just dead, and with the best will in the world it's never going to get the spark back. I divorced after 22 years of marriage - it was the best decision I ever made in my life! I don't have to die with embarrassment every time he has 'a couple of beers' and acts like an idiot. I don't have to wonder where my money went. Don't have to listen to all the crap any more. I just love being single again.
if your well off or your about to get a good raise or better job,put it off.or she will get that extra cash you worked so hard for.especially if you have kids.and don't go to the courts without a lawyer.they are totally for the woman.trust me on that one.and be careful those mediators are very intimidating or try to be.good luck.
I agree with Katie 200, Please make sure you have gone over an d beyond to make the marriage work. The decision that you will be making will effect you, your (children-if any), spouse and family members. Ending a marriage is like death. Some people internalize all issues into themselves (taking the full blame) when it takes two.





Just make sure you have tried everything before you make the huge step. I wish you the very best and keep your head up.





Oh' surround yourself with positive and loving people...no negative people. Trust me...






If there is such a thing as a bad marriage, there is such a thing as a good divorce.





Tinker
i did it


and i love it


free again


now i dont have to report to the warden every morning